Tell me about yourself.
I am currently in school studying social work, while working as a document specialist for a corporate outsourcing company. I volunteer at a haunted house in October. I’ve always had an interest in music and theater. I really love children and want to spend my life making sure they are put in the best possible situation for a healthy future.
What were you feeling when you found out you were pregnant?
I was 21 years old and in college when I found out I was pregnant. I was completely terrified. My mother had passed away not too long before, and I thought my being sick was grief, or a stomach virus. I took a test after work one night and not even 30 seconds after; it came up with a positive result. When I told my boyfriend, we initially discussed abortion as an option, but after finding out I was already 18 weeks along, that wasn’t an option in the slightest for us. We discussed parenting, but with both of us continuing our education and pursuing careers, we felt that we didn’t have the time or money to put our child in the best possible position in life.
Describe your adoption journey.
We decided to pursue adoption after realizing that it wasn’t the right time to add to our family, but rather to add to someone else’s. It was scary, and admittedly there were times we talked about reconsidering, but Liam’s future meant so much to us. We both knew we wanted a family that was comfortable with an open adoption, who shared similar values, a sense of humor, and a parenting style that I one day hope to have myself. It was really important for us to find people that were hard-working, valued education, and were established in life.
I started by looking around on the internet while deciding on whether or not to pursue adoption, but hadn’t looked seriously. After we found out the baby’s gender, a boy, things got a little more real, and I sat down at my computer one day and went to search for answers. Being like most people in my generation, I decided to browse my Facebook newsfeed first, and in my newsfeed was the adoption page of a local couple who had recently finalized the adoption of their first son. I messaged them in hopes of finding out the agency that they used or if they knew of any resources in the area, and ended up talking to the wife, Heather, for hours that night and in the days to follow. Darren and Heather met with my boyfriend and I about a month after Heather and I first started talking. That day after lunch, I invited her to come to my next appointment with me, where I was having a growth ultrasound. We talked every day on Facebook messenger and she accompanied me to ultrasounds, and at some point we transitioned to texting. We were supposed to have lunch again and meet their older son the weekend that Liam was born.